This weekend she went camping with some friends of hers. I can only guess they're friends and not acquaintances or friends of friends or something since she nearly never does anything with friendswho aren't co-workers.
I really have no idea if the the people she went camping with were co-workers or friends who she knew through other venues.
Regardless, she came home a few hours ago and admitted it was cold out where she'd gone camping and she didn't get much sleep due to the weather.
Then she snapped at me because I went to play with her cat and she doesn't like how I play with her cat. In general, I say: "Hey, kitty!" and reach for it. Sometimes the cat lets me play with it, and sometimes it runs off. Today it ran off.
I had plans for today and thought about inviting her, her over-reaction, yet again, to something I did made me think otherwise. So I left and went to one of the 9-11 events being held around town today. (previous G+ post)
Fast forward a couple of hours.
I return home and she's asleep on her chais lounger. I come in, feed both her and my dog since it was doggy dinner time, and sat down on the couch. The TV was already going on a channel that I didn't mind on and I made no effort to change it or anything. I did put some chicken in the toaster oven and aside from typing that was pretty much all the noise I made.
It wasn't until about an hour later when I was getting some ice for my cup of water than she sits up, turns off the TV and storms to her room. I mentioned, very conversationally, that I was watching that to which she replies: "I don't f*ing care." She storms into he room and slams her door.
Why? Because I was being noisyer than she liked? She's noisy on all the time, never once giving me consideration and I wasn't even being noisy, I fed the dogs, put some chicken in the toaster-oven and got some ice out of the freezer. She's been known to vacuum while I'm sleeping, load and unload the dishwasher (very noise) run her cooking appliances (such as a grinder) while I'm asleep or trying to sleep.
After she goes in her room and slams the door I grab the remote, turn the TV back on and turn the volume down much lower than she had it in case she was trying to go back to sleep or something.
Three, maybe four minutes go by and she comes storming out, grabs the remote and decides to give me 30 days notice to get out (she owns the house).
Suddenly, everything in the world is my fault. Her house is dirty and it's my fault (I do my share of cleaning), but when she's the only one cooking I don't do a lot of dishes, my bedroom and bathroom are way cleaner than hers and I sweep regularly. I don't mop a lot because she doesn't have a mop, she has some sort of steam water thing that's a pain the ass to use. I don't eat any of her food that she buys unless she specifically tells me I can or it will go bad. Anything we both use, such as eggs, milk and whatnot, I make sure to buy when it's out even though she uses far more those things than I do.
She's never asked me to pay any utilities even when I've offered her money to do so, especially in the winter time when the heat is on. Her reply has consistently been: I'm paying for it whether it gets used or not, so don't worry about it and the gas and electricity has barely gone up $10/mo since you moved in.
Now, apparently the gas and electricity, which I've never been asked to contribute to, is sucking a huge gaping hole out of her pocket. And instead of asking me to contribute, she's using it as leverage to justify her telling me to get out. I've never turned on the A/C or the heat, but having the TV on an extra few hours a day is breaking her. And again, she didn't ask for any money. But all my electronics are adding to her bill. Oh, you mean my laptop and my cell phone? Those are the only electronics I brought with me when I moved in and use (minus flashlights, camera which runs on battery, etc).
The problem is we've never been on equal footing since I moved in. It was always her house, her TV,her whatever. And since I wasn't paying half her mortgage for her I was the lesser roommate. I am not even allowed to keep dishes in the kitchen. Whenever they come out of the dishwasher she puts them in my room.
I should have seen this coming. Little things for months have been adding up but I shrugged them off as her having had a bad day at work or stressed over her HOA board of directors responsibility. Things like the other day when she kept telling me she couldn't go do anything because she wanted to get some work done around the house. She never said what kind of work, she just said there were a few things she wanted to get done. She spent the rest of the day on the couch. She sat there playing some stupid game on her tablet, or iPod Touch or phone or whatever was in her hand at that point. I came and went multiple times throughout the day and she never left the couch. She never said, "Hey, I want to clean," do the dishes, or anything. And she never ever asked for help. But somehow it's my fault nothing got done.
I'd been wondering for a while now if/when I moved out we'd continue to be friends. She really is a nice person who offered me a place to live when my previous landlord asked me to move out because her son wanted to move into the place I was renting. And because of that I've never said no to her when she requested anything from me. She blames me because her stuff is a mess. Her stuff was a mess before I moved in, the only difference is she had it all in the spare room, piles and piles on crap, and when I moved in she had to do something with it.
To be honest, I don't know if all this came up because she's tired and irritated or if she has 'friends' telling her I'm taking advantage of her. Probably both.
In the meantime, I'm going to need to make more money so I can afford a new place to live, so if anyone is hiring let a brother know.
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